I always get town phase very late in the game. But at that time I have lots of troops and workers. My pop is up on 200 and i get food and wood very fast. Do I need to save more resources and don't spend that much?

I think, when I said that they replied "not interested" I didn't think like that was exactly what they said. I just wanted you to be aware of that they always weren't interested in an alliance.

Same here, thanks a lot!

that would work except not everyone has lobby accounts. I was on the forum for years before I got a lobby account (and even then I used it like once)

I have a question, is it possible, when creating an account to check if the lobby name registered by the user corresponds to an actual lobby name (if not already done) and to prevent the user from creating one if it does not exists. Alternatively, maybe ask to enter a lobby password which could be broadcasted in the lobby with a command. Although that might be too much trouble for actual users.. ?